10 Step Hotwife Program

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10 Step Hotwife/Cuckold Program

Going from a typical partner or wife to Hotwife requires a certain change in mindset. As your partner’s mate, you must assist in this transformation to get her to see her sexuality as something good, powerful and fun.  

Step 1: Honest Affection

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The very FIRST thing everyone must do is to absolutely make sure your partner KNOWS you are in love and THIS IS A CONTINUAL PROCESS.   You don’t do that by just saying “Hey, I love you, now how about becoming a Hotwife (or a cuckold).” That is not going to work.  SHOW your partner that you love them, not just telling them.  Love is not how you say it, Love is how you do it. Do things for her that truly demonstrates you care about your partner and their well-being, emotions and sexual pleasure.

You do that by bringing her flowers frequently; writing her a little love notes; going on-line and copying a love poem (be sure you don’t represent that you wrote it, just that you found it and thought it fitting for her); getting her a gift card for a dress shop that has sexy clothes, etc.; doing things around the house for her that maybe you normally don’t do; taking her out for romantic candlelit dinners.  Anything like that will SHOW her you love her, and throughout this whole process, KEEP doing it. Don’t just do it once or twice, then not again. Every step along the way, SHOW her so that she knows the things you are doing are out of love for HER, not because of your own needs. It must be for HER, and she must always feel that.

Many men may forget that most woman are conditioned to be loyal to their husbands and not have extra-marital affairs or sleep with other men and be labeled wayward.  Your job is to shift the paradigm to one of being a loving wife and open with your acceptance and her new found Hotwife role.


Step 2:  Denial

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Denial. Yep, refrain from having penetration with your wife/partner.  And it’s going to be hard. (no pun intended but this is vitally important).  With your wife/partner getting more attention, she may respond positively resulting in you getting incredibly horny, but don’t do it.  Why do you think God gave you a right hand? Use it to relieve yourself when you need to.

All is not over because now, and for her, you are going to eat, eat, eat her, suck her tits, kiss her lips, play with her asshole (fingers and tongue), and get her to cum in ways other than penetration.  Now, explore unselfishly explore her wonderful body with your mouth and tongue and make her hot and wanting more, but no penetration.  Remember, you want her to be left wanting something more and that is OK.  And as you do this, sincerely tell how wonderful, sexy, strong, she is.  Develop a love for giving her oral sex.  Talk to her, explore her, just no penetration.  You are doing things to boost her sex drive.  Giving her attention she deserves, pampering her, giving her foods that are aphrodisiacs (like chocolate) and getting her naked more and playing with her more to increase her libido.  You must get her to start feeling sexy and thinking about sex more.  The mind leads and the body follows.  Keep making her horny with all of your stroking and giving her oral sex. Absolutely NO PENETRATION.

Step 3: Openness

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With confidence in you as her loving partner and her new bridled sexual confidence, start getting her into nudity.  Subtly start to get her to wear as little as possible.  Buy her lingerie and more lingerie, new items, revealing items, becoming more and more open.  Our goal is for her to become confident of wearing less and less. Women can be extremely self-conscious and are always sensitive to their looks. Constantly complement her, and not always in a sexual context.  There are countless things to complement a woman on, her looks, her hips, her walk, her legs, her eyes, her legs, her shape and her sexuality.  These are physical, but her humor, decision making, homemaker, mother, confidence, spontaneity, personality, and passion.  We are working to help her feel confident in being naked and especially in the sexual.  First for her husband, next for another man.  

Let her know you love watching her naked.  When you are alone be creative, it could be laying around watching TV or even cooking.  Give her naked back rubs, massage her feet, with you sitting on the floor, her totally naked.  Always, complement her and not always sexy.  Tell her something is changing in her, her confidence, her allure, her sexuality. As appropriate, hint that she should not be so covered up in public because of her beauty.  She is meant to be enjoyed by others, too.  At very minimum, get her to be comfortable with being a naked when it’s only you and her.

Step 4:  Sexy Clothing

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As a male we love woman, hot sexy women! Buy your Queen some sexy and revealing clothing and encourage her to wear them.  Maybe it’s at home at first, but our goal is in public. She will likely resist, so offer to take her to another town or to a place she won’t run into anyone she knows when you go to bars or clubs or out shopping with her dressed so sexy.  Get her used to the idea of looking, flirting, and acting sexy.

When she is used to looking and acting sexy, then get her to go without panties while wearing a short skirt.  Going panty-less can really work wonders, can get her aroused, and make her bolder once she is used to it. At first, when she does this, it will be very hard for her to get her mind off the fact she is in a very short skirt with no panties, and the possibility total strangers could see her.  Support your partner in her feelings and make sure to support her new-found confidence and sexuality.  

Our experience it, this can be very sensual and personally Mistress K, still enjoys her womanhood and moistness.  At this point, she may feel a little slutty (sorry for being graphic), act sluttier, and therefore tease more.   This is good, but do not underestimate the need for emotional support from her partner.  It is important that she feel sexy and understand that men are attracted to her. For many women, this can be a point of insecurity. Women are not taught to be forward in their sexuality and this may come across as insecurity.  It’s a good partners role to help her over this with support and love.  

Step 5:  Toys

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We have come a long way, and it’s time for toys.  There are 1000’s of toys to fit any fetish.  Whatever direction you feel her leaning, support it and encourage toys.  Minimally, get her an over average realistic looking dildo with veins and a nice head.  Your goal is to get her comfortable with the toy(s) and it needs to be larger than your cock.  

Hint:  We bought a hard case carry on piece of luggage that allowed a combination lock. This brings a single location for your kink, as well as it’s lockable to bring confidence on being outed to soon.

Start using it on her while watching porn.  Eventually, get her to take over control of the dildo. Get her to cum from it while watching porn.  Make comments about how sexy she is on using the dildo, how sexy the dildo looks in her.

By the way, be sure to get some good lube for the dildo, and it’s the man’s job to 1) keep it lubed for her and 2) the man always cleans and puts up toys.  

Step 6:  Porn/Fetish

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Whether she is into or not, persuade her to watch porn.  Tread carefully here and work on her if to watch something that will not just crush her from a shock standpoint.  Initially, she may resist, but go back to Steps 1-3, and work it.  Maybe you do something for her and she does something for you.  Maybe it gets jump started by “just try it once”.  Regardless, as we have mentioned countless times, communicate.  Complement the new her, her confidence, and some of her new-found freedom.  

As the Queen and the Knight of a relationship, you are unique individuals and a unique couple, with unique fantasies and kinks.  As Mistress K and hubby, we started very calm.  We may not be as normal as everyone because we have a list of kinks, and we are both very open in our sexuality.  This step is where you start to explore your specific kink. Is it Interracial? is it Domme? is it Female/Female? is it Hotwife? is it Cuckold?  The choices are boundless but go there.      

At this point, our hopes are that you are well on your way AND you both have had a lot of fun expressing yourselves, both sexually and from a relationship standpoint.  Here is where you should adapt to what seems to turn her on. If she gets turned on by FemDom/sub, Hotwife, Chastity, Interracial, Anal, Female/Female, or 3 way’s, it’s time to explore.


Step 7: Immersion and Reinforcement

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Now we have several button’s to push.  Your Relationship, Sexual Pleasure Shift, New found Attitude, Sexy Dress, Toys, Porn and let’s push them.  Listen to your partner/wife and go there.  Go out and have fun.  Reinforce that YOU are her supporting partner.  Ensure she NEVER cums from your penetration.  In other words, ANYTIME she cums at this point, it must, be related to her new outlook.  She must begin to fully associate that she is control of her pleasure and release.  If her new found Hotwife lifestyle is not involved, then there is not adequate sexual pleasure.  

Above all, you must now, no matter how hard it is for you, keep your dick out of ANY of her holes.

Step 8:  Wing man…

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Usually unless she is not willing at all, a new person, your HOTWIFE, will emerge around Step 8.  For Step 8, 9, & 10 it is very important that your boundaries are clearly defined.  The two of you are partners, and these last steps will be challenging, eye opening, and it’s vitally important everyone is on board with your mutual agreement.

Find a trendy bar with a mix of people you believe there may be interest in.  She needs to dress the part of a Hotwife.  Sexy and physically attractive.  If you need to go out of town, this can help drop some inhibitions.  Here, we are going to role-play.  Both your and her goal is to mingle, flirt, and make sure she is in the spot light.  Sometimes a little liquid motivation helps, and it goes without saying, you are close by fully being fully supportive and loving.  She needs to feel sexy and good.  

Note.  Honestly, a woman may not feel overly comfortable with putting herself out there, and this is where a wing-man can come in handy.  As her equally confident (and motivated) partner/spouse you may be the best one to open dialog with other men.  If she has not welcomed her new-found confidence, attraction and sexuality, do not try to push it.  Your goal is to get guys watching her, and flirting with her.  It may take multiple times out, but our goal is to get her comfortable to receiving the advances.  

Maybe hint about how the good-looking men are paying attention to her.  If she does not seem to be receptive to submitting, you may need to back up and repeat some of the steps.

Step 9: Alter ego

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If she has gone all the way through Step 9, then it is time to come out with it.

Depending on how immersed your partner/wife has become it may be appropriate to approach this step obliquely.  Reinforce her self confidence.

Tinder offers a great opportunity and platform to make flirting fun and easy. Tell her you want to have some fun on Tinder by creating an “alternate ego” for her on Tinder. Buy her some sexy outfits and spend a Saturday at some interesting places taking photos for her profile. Once the account is set up the two of you can spend time scrolling through guys she finds attractive (just for fun) of course. This activity alone will stimulate your cuck cock and lead to hours of fun and erotica.

It won’t be long before she and other guys start matching and “chatting” and it’s quite important that whatever boundaries and rules you have established are clear on both sides.  More in Step 10.

Take it slow. Make it a game.  Use these results in your sex and masturbation fantasies together. When this stage loses its titillation, she’ll be ready to take another step like meeting one of the guys for a date. Engage as her wing man however you have agreed, and insure you that she has confidence that you are protecting her and supporting her.

As her confidence builds and she is secure that these fantasies are strengthening your love and sex life, she’ll be ready to take one of these dates home and suck his cock while you watch surreptitiously.  Soon she’ll be wearing anklets, riding fat hot cocks, and exploring both of your fantasies.  

Step 10. Arrival of Hotwife & Cuckold

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Let’s assume you are successful up to this point.  IT WILL BE CHALLENGING, IT WILL BE EMOTIONAL, and it WILL BUILD a STRONGER RELATIONSHIP.  Communicate, Listen, and move at your own pace.  It is vitally important, that the foundation and Step 1 are sincere, transparent, and loving.  

It is all about HER, and always keep that at the front of your mind.  She is primary, you are not. Worship her!  You are her loving wing-man, support, and confidant.  Enjoy your new roles.  

Let her know you will participate only to the extent to the extent the two of you have agreed.  If she wants you to watch, great!  If she wants you to be nearby for security at first, do it, and do not insist you watch.  If she wants you for clean-up after, do not hesitate, not matter how you feel about that at first. You do what SHE wants, not what you want.

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    This literally has become my mantra!! I’m working on step two….love your blog!!
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