Going from a
typical partner or wife to Hotwife requires a certain change in mindset. As
your partner’s mate, you must assist in this transformation to get her to see
her sexuality as something good, powerful and fun.
Step 1: Honest
Affection
The very FIRST thing everyone must do
is to absolutely make sure your partner KNOWS you are in love and THIS IS A
CONTINUAL PROCESS. You don’t do that by just saying “Hey, I love
you, now how about becoming a Hotwife (or a cuckold).” That is not going to work. SHOW your partner that you love them, not just
telling them. Love is not how you say
it, Love is how you do it. Do things for
her that truly demonstrates you care about your partner and their well-being, emotions
and sexual pleasure.
You do that by bringing her flowers frequently; writing her a little love notes;
going on-line and copying a love poem (be sure you don’t represent that you
wrote it, just that you found it and thought it fitting for her); getting her a
gift card for a dress shop that has sexy clothes, etc.; doing things around the
house for her that maybe you normally don’t do; taking her out for romantic
candlelit dinners. Anything like that
will SHOW her you love her, and throughout this whole process, KEEP doing it.
Don’t just do it once or twice, then not again. Every step along the way, SHOW
her so that she knows the things you are doing are out of love for HER, not
because of your own needs. It must be for HER, and she must always feel that.
Many men may forget that most woman are
conditioned to be loyal to their husbands and not have extra-marital affairs or
sleep with other men and be labeled wayward. Your job is to shift the paradigm to one of
being a loving wife and open with your acceptance and her new found Hotwife
role.
Step 2: Denial
Denial.
Yep, refrain from having penetration with your wife/partner. And it’s going to be hard. (no pun intended
but this is vitally important). With
your wife/partner getting more attention, she may respond positively resulting
in you getting incredibly horny, but don’t do it. Why do you think God gave you a right hand? Use
it to relieve yourself when you need to.
All is not
over because now, and for her, you are going to eat, eat, eat her, suck her
tits, kiss her lips, play with her asshole (fingers and tongue), and get her to
cum in ways other than penetration. Now, explore
unselfishly explore her wonderful body with your mouth and tongue and make her
hot and wanting more, but no penetration. Remember, you want her to be left wanting
something more and that is OK. And as
you do this, sincerely tell how wonderful, sexy, strong, she is. Develop a love for giving her oral sex. Talk to her, explore her, just no
penetration. You are doing things
to boost her sex drive. Giving her
attention she deserves, pampering her, giving her foods that are aphrodisiacs
(like chocolate) and getting her naked more and playing with her more to
increase her libido. You must get her to
start feeling sexy and thinking about sex more. The mind leads and the body follows. Keep making her horny with all of your
stroking and giving her oral sex.
Absolutely NO PENETRATION.
Step 3: Openness
With confidence in you as her loving
partner and her new bridled sexual confidence, start getting her into nudity. Subtly start to get her to wear as little as
possible. Buy her lingerie and more lingerie, new items, revealing items, becoming more
and more open. Our goal is for her to
become confident of wearing less and less. Women can be extremely self-conscious
and are always sensitive to their looks. Constantly complement her, and not
always in a sexual context. There are
countless things to complement a woman on, her looks, her hips, her walk, her
legs, her eyes, her legs, her shape and her sexuality. These are physical, but her humor, decision
making, homemaker, mother, confidence, spontaneity, personality, and
passion. We are working to help her feel
confident in being naked and especially in the sexual. First for her husband, next for another
man.
Let her know
you love watching her naked. When you
are alone be creative, it could be laying around watching
TV or even cooking. Give her naked back rubs, massage her feet,
with you sitting on the floor, her totally naked. Always, complement her and not always
sexy. Tell her something is changing in
her, her confidence, her allure, her sexuality.
As appropriate, hint that she should not be so covered up in public
because of her beauty. She is meant to
be enjoyed by others, too. At very
minimum, get her to be comfortable with being a naked when it’s only you and
her.
Step 4: Sexy Clothing
As a male we love woman, hot sexy women!
Buy your Queen some sexy and revealing clothing and encourage her to
wear them. Maybe it’s at home at first,
but our goal is in public. She will likely resist, so offer to take her to
another town or to a place she won’t run into anyone she knows when you go to
bars or clubs or out shopping with her dressed so sexy. Get her used to the idea of looking,
flirting, and acting sexy.
When she is used to looking and acting
sexy, then get her to go without panties while wearing a short skirt. Going panty-less can really work wonders, can
get her aroused, and make her bolder once she is used to it. At first, when she
does this, it will be very hard for her to get her mind off the fact she is in
a very short skirt with no panties, and the possibility total strangers could
see her. Support your partner in her
feelings and make sure to support her new-found confidence and sexuality.
Our experience it, this can be very
sensual and personally Mistress K, still enjoys her womanhood and
moistness. At this point, she may feel a
little slutty (sorry for being graphic), act sluttier, and therefore
tease more. This is good, but do not
underestimate the need for emotional support from her partner. It is important that she feel sexy and
understand that men are attracted to her.
For many women, this can be a point of insecurity. Women are not taught
to be forward in their sexuality and this may come across as insecurity. It’s a good partners role to help her over
this with support and love.
Step 5: Toys
We have come a long way, and it’s time
for toys. There are 1000’s of toys to
fit any fetish. Whatever direction you
feel her leaning, support it and encourage toys. Minimally, get her an over average realistic looking
dildo with veins and a nice head. Your
goal is to get her comfortable with the toy(s) and it needs to be larger than
your cock.
Hint: We bought a hard case carry on piece of
luggage that allowed a combination lock.
This brings a single location for your kink, as well as it’s lockable to
bring confidence on being outed to soon.
Start using
it on her while watching porn.Eventually, get her to take over control of
the dildo. Get her to cum from it while watching porn. Make comments about how sexy she is on using
the dildo, how sexy the dildo looks in her.
By the way, be sure to get some good
lube for the dildo, and it’s the man’s job to 1) keep it lubed for her and 2)
the man always cleans and puts up toys.
Step 6: Porn/Fetish
Whether she is into or not, persuade her to watch porn. Tread carefully here and work on her if to
watch something that will not just crush her from a shock standpoint. Initially, she may resist, but go back to
Steps 1-3, and work it. Maybe you do
something for her and she does something for you. Maybe it gets jump started by “just try it
once”. Regardless, as we have mentioned
countless times, communicate. Complement
the new her, her confidence, and some of her new-found freedom.
As the Queen and the Knight of a
relationship, you are unique individuals and a unique couple, with unique
fantasies and kinks. As Mistress K and
hubby, we started very calm. We may not
be as normal as everyone because we have a list of kinks, and we are both very
open in our sexuality. This step is where
you start to explore your specific kink.
Is it Interracial? is it Domme? is it Female/Female? is it Hotwife? is
it Cuckold? The choices are boundless
but go there.
At this point, our hopes are that you
are well on your way AND you both have had a lot of fun expressing yourselves,
both sexually and from a relationship standpoint. Here is where you should adapt to what seems
to turn her on. If she gets turned on by FemDom/sub, Hotwife, Chastity, Interracial,
Anal, Female/Female, or 3 way’s, it’s time to explore.
Step 7: Immersion and Reinforcement
Now we have several button’s to
push. Your Relationship, Sexual Pleasure
Shift, New found Attitude, Sexy Dress, Toys, Porn and let’s push them. Listen to your partner/wife and go
there. Go out and have fun. Reinforce that YOU are her supporting
partner. Ensure she NEVER cums from your
penetration. In other words, ANYTIME she
cums at this point, it must, be related to her new outlook. She must begin to fully associate that she is
control of her pleasure and release. If
her new found Hotwife lifestyle is not involved, then there is not adequate
sexual pleasure.
Above all, you must now, no matter how hard it is for you, keep your dick
out of ANY of her holes.
Step 8: Wing man…
Usually unless she is not willing at all, a new person, your HOTWIFE, will
emerge around Step 8. For Step 8, 9,
& 10 it is very important that your boundaries are clearly defined. The two of you are partners, and these last
steps will be challenging, eye opening, and it’s vitally important everyone is
on board with your mutual agreement.
Find a trendy
bar with a mix of people you believe there may be interest in. She needs to dress the part of a Hotwife. Sexy and physically attractive. If you need to go out of town, this can help
drop some inhibitions. Here, we are
going to role-play. Both your and her
goal is to mingle, flirt, and make sure she is in the spot light. Sometimes a little liquid motivation helps,
and it goes without saying, you are close by fully being fully supportive and
loving. She needs to feel sexy and
good.
Note. Honestly, a woman may not feel overly
comfortable with putting herself out there, and this is where a wing-man can
come in handy. As her equally confident (and
motivated) partner/spouse you may be the best one to open dialog with other
men. If she has not welcomed her new-found
confidence, attraction and sexuality, do not try to push it. Your goal is to get guys watching her, and
flirting with her. It may take multiple
times out, but our goal is to get her comfortable to receiving the
advances.
Maybe hint
about how the good-looking men are paying attention to her. If she does not seem to be receptive to
submitting, you may need to back up and repeat some of the steps.
Step
9: Alter ego
If she has gone all the way through Step 9, then it is time to come out with
it.
Depending on
how immersed your partner/wife has become it may be appropriate to approach
this step obliquely. Reinforce her self
confidence.
Tinder offers
a great opportunity and platform to make flirting fun and easy. Tell her you
want to have some fun on Tinder by creating an “alternate ego” for her on
Tinder. Buy her some sexy outfits and spend a Saturday at some interesting
places taking photos for her profile. Once the account is set up the two of you
can spend time scrolling through guys she finds attractive (just for fun) of
course. This activity alone will stimulate your cuck cock and lead to hours of fun
and erotica.
It won’t be
long before she and other guys start matching and “chatting” and it’s quite
important that whatever boundaries and rules you have established are clear on
both sides. More in Step 10.
Take it slow.
Make it a game. Use these results in
your sex and masturbation fantasies together. When this stage loses its titillation,
she’ll be ready to take another step like meeting one of the guys for a date. Engage
as her wing man however you have agreed, and insure you that she has confidence
that you are protecting her and supporting her.
As her
confidence builds and she is secure that these fantasies are strengthening your
love and sex life, she’ll be ready to take one of these dates home and suck his
cock while you watch surreptitiously. Soon
she’ll be wearing anklets, riding fat hot cocks, and exploring both of your
fantasies.
Step 10.
Arrival of Hotwife & Cuckold
Let’s assume you are successful up to
this point. IT WILL BE CHALLENGING, IT
WILL BE EMOTIONAL, and it WILL BUILD a STRONGER RELATIONSHIP. Communicate, Listen, and move at your own
pace. It is vitally important, that the
foundation and Step 1 are sincere, transparent, and loving.
It is all about
HER, and always keep that at the front of your mind. She is primary, you are not. Worship her! You are her loving wing-man, support, and
confidant. Enjoy your new roles.
Let her know you will participate only
to the extent to the extent the two of you have agreed. If she wants you to watch, great! If she wants you to be nearby for security at
first, do it, and do not insist you watch. If she wants you for clean-up after, do not
hesitate, not matter how you feel about that at first. You do what SHE wants,
not what you want.
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