Going from a
typical partner or wife to Hotwife requires a certain change in mindset. As
your partner’s mate, you must assist in this transformation to get her to see
her sexuality as something good, powerful and fun.
Step 1: Honest
Affection
The very FIRST thing everyone must do
is to absolutely make sure your partner KNOWS you are in love and THIS IS A
CONTINUAL PROCESS. You don’t do that by just saying “Hey, I love
you, now how about becoming a Hotwife (or a cuckold).” That is not going to work. SHOW your partner that you love them, not just
telling them. Love is not how you say
it, Love is how you do it. Do things for
her that truly demonstrates you care about your partner and their well-being, emotions
and sexual pleasure.
You do that by bringing her flowers frequently; writing her a little love notes;
going on-line and copying a love poem (be sure you don’t represent that you
wrote it, just that you found it and thought it fitting for her); getting her a
gift card for a dress shop that has sexy clothes, etc.; doing things around the
house for her that maybe you normally don’t do; taking her out for romantic
candlelit dinners. Anything like that
will SHOW her you love her, and throughout this whole process, KEEP doing it.
Don’t just do it once or twice, then not again. Every step along the way, SHOW
her so that she knows the things you are doing are out of love for HER, not
because of your own needs. It must be for HER, and she must always feel that.
Many men may forget that most woman are
conditioned to be loyal to their husbands and not have extra-marital affairs or
sleep with other men and be labeled wayward. Your job is to shift the paradigm to one of
being a loving wife and open with your acceptance and her new found Hotwife
role.
Step 2: Denial
Denial.
Yep, refrain from having penetration with your wife/partner. And it’s going to be hard. (no pun intended
but this is vitally important). With
your wife/partner getting more attention, she may respond positively resulting
in you getting incredibly horny, but don’t do it. Why do you think God gave you a right hand? Use
it to relieve yourself when you need to.
All is not
over because now, and for her, you are going to eat, eat, eat her, suck her
tits, kiss her lips, play with her asshole (fingers and tongue), and get her to
cum in ways other than penetration. Now, explore
unselfishly explore her wonderful body with your mouth and tongue and make her
hot and wanting more, but no penetration. Remember, you want her to be left wanting
something more and that is OK. And as
you do this, sincerely tell how wonderful, sexy, strong, she is. Develop a love for giving her oral sex. Talk to her, explore her, just no
penetration. You are doing things
to boost her sex drive. Giving her
attention she deserves, pampering her, giving her foods that are aphrodisiacs
(like chocolate) and getting her naked more and playing with her more to
increase her libido. You must get her to
start feeling sexy and thinking about sex more. The mind leads and the body follows. Keep making her horny with all of your
stroking and giving her oral sex.
Absolutely NO PENETRATION.
Step 3: Openness
With confidence in you as her loving
partner and her new bridled sexual confidence, start getting her into nudity. Subtly start to get her to wear as little as
possible. Buy her lingerie and more lingerie, new items, revealing items, becoming more
and more open. Our goal is for her to
become confident of wearing less and less. Women can be extremely self-conscious
and are always sensitive to their looks. Constantly complement her, and not
always in a sexual context. There are
countless things to complement a woman on, her looks, her hips, her walk, her
legs, her eyes, her legs, her shape and her sexuality. These are physical, but her humor, decision
making, homemaker, mother, confidence, spontaneity, personality, and
passion. We are working to help her feel
confident in being naked and especially in the sexual. First for her husband, next for another
man.
Let her know
you love watching her naked. When you
are alone be creative, it could be laying around watching
TV or even cooking. Give her naked back rubs, massage her feet,
with you sitting on the floor, her totally naked. Always, complement her and not always
sexy. Tell her something is changing in
her, her confidence, her allure, her sexuality.
As appropriate, hint that she should not be so covered up in public
because of her beauty. She is meant to
be enjoyed by others, too. At very
minimum, get her to be comfortable with being a naked when it’s only you and
her.
Step 4: Sexy Clothing
As a male we love woman, hot sexy women!
Buy your Queen some sexy and revealing clothing and encourage her to
wear them. Maybe it’s at home at first,
but our goal is in public. She will likely resist, so offer to take her to
another town or to a place she won’t run into anyone she knows when you go to
bars or clubs or out shopping with her dressed so sexy. Get her used to the idea of looking,
flirting, and acting sexy.
When she is used to looking and acting
sexy, then get her to go without panties while wearing a short skirt. Going panty-less can really work wonders, can
get her aroused, and make her bolder once she is used to it. At first, when she
does this, it will be very hard for her to get her mind off the fact she is in
a very short skirt with no panties, and the possibility total strangers could
see her. Support your partner in her
feelings and make sure to support her new-found confidence and sexuality.
Our experience it, this can be very
sensual and personally Mistress K, still enjoys her womanhood and
moistness. At this point, she may feel a
little slutty (sorry for being graphic), act sluttier, and therefore
tease more. This is good, but do not
underestimate the need for emotional support from her partner. It is important that she feel sexy and
understand that men are attracted to her.
For many women, this can be a point of insecurity. Women are not taught
to be forward in their sexuality and this may come across as insecurity. It’s a good partners role to help her over
this with support and love.
Step 5: Toys
We have come a long way, and it’s time
for toys. There are 1000’s of toys to
fit any fetish. Whatever direction you
feel her leaning, support it and encourage toys. Minimally, get her an over average realistic looking
dildo with veins and a nice head. Your
goal is to get her comfortable with the toy(s) and it needs to be larger than
your cock.
Hint: We bought a hard case carry on piece of
luggage that allowed a combination lock.
This brings a single location for your kink, as well as it’s lockable to
bring confidence on being outed to soon.
Start using
it on her while watching porn.Eventually, get her to take over control of
the dildo. Get her to cum from it while watching porn. Make comments about how sexy she is on using
the dildo, how sexy the dildo looks in her.
By the way, be sure to get some good
lube for the dildo, and it’s the man’s job to 1) keep it lubed for her and 2)
the man always cleans and puts up toys.
Step 6: Porn/Fetish
Whether she is into or not, persuade her to watch porn. Tread carefully here and work on her if to
watch something that will not just crush her from a shock standpoint. Initially, she may resist, but go back to
Steps 1-3, and work it. Maybe you do
something for her and she does something for you. Maybe it gets jump started by “just try it
once”. Regardless, as we have mentioned
countless times, communicate. Complement
the new her, her confidence, and some of her new-found freedom.
As the Queen and the Knight of a
relationship, you are unique individuals and a unique couple, with unique
fantasies and kinks. As Mistress K and
hubby, we started very calm. We may not
be as normal as everyone because we have a list of kinks, and we are both very
open in our sexuality. This step is where
you start to explore your specific kink.
Is it Interracial? is it Domme? is it Female/Female? is it Hotwife? is
it Cuckold? The choices are boundless
but go there.
At this point, our hopes are that you
are well on your way AND you both have had a lot of fun expressing yourselves,
both sexually and from a relationship standpoint. Here is where you should adapt to what seems
to turn her on. If she gets turned on by FemDom/sub, Hotwife, Chastity, Interracial,
Anal, Female/Female, or 3 way’s, it’s time to explore.
Step 7: Immersion and Reinforcement
Now we have several button’s to
push. Your Relationship, Sexual Pleasure
Shift, New found Attitude, Sexy Dress, Toys, Porn and let’s push them. Listen to your partner/wife and go
there. Go out and have fun. Reinforce that YOU are her supporting
partner. Ensure she NEVER cums from your
penetration. In other words, ANYTIME she
cums at this point, it must, be related to her new outlook. She must begin to fully associate that she is
control of her pleasure and release. If
her new found Hotwife lifestyle is not involved, then there is not adequate
sexual pleasure.
Above all, you must now, no matter how hard it is for you, keep your dick
out of ANY of her holes.
Step 8: Wing man…
Usually unless she is not willing at all, a new person, your HOTWIFE, will
emerge around Step 8. For Step 8, 9,
& 10 it is very important that your boundaries are clearly defined. The two of you are partners, and these last
steps will be challenging, eye opening, and it’s vitally important everyone is
on board with your mutual agreement.
Find a trendy
bar with a mix of people you believe there may be interest in. She needs to dress the part of a Hotwife. Sexy and physically attractive. If you need to go out of town, this can help
drop some inhibitions. Here, we are
going to role-play. Both your and her
goal is to mingle, flirt, and make sure she is in the spot light. Sometimes a little liquid motivation helps,
and it goes without saying, you are close by fully being fully supportive and
loving. She needs to feel sexy and
good.
Note. Honestly, a woman may not feel overly
comfortable with putting herself out there, and this is where a wing-man can
come in handy. As her equally confident (and
motivated) partner/spouse you may be the best one to open dialog with other
men. If she has not welcomed her new-found
confidence, attraction and sexuality, do not try to push it. Your goal is to get guys watching her, and
flirting with her. It may take multiple
times out, but our goal is to get her comfortable to receiving the
advances.
Maybe hint
about how the good-looking men are paying attention to her. If she does not seem to be receptive to
submitting, you may need to back up and repeat some of the steps.
Step
9: Alter ego
If she has gone all the way through Step 9, then it is time to come out with
it.
Depending on
how immersed your partner/wife has become it may be appropriate to approach
this step obliquely. Reinforce her self
confidence.
Tinder offers
a great opportunity and platform to make flirting fun and easy. Tell her you
want to have some fun on Tinder by creating an “alternate ego” for her on
Tinder. Buy her some sexy outfits and spend a Saturday at some interesting
places taking photos for her profile. Once the account is set up the two of you
can spend time scrolling through guys she finds attractive (just for fun) of
course. This activity alone will stimulate your cuck cock and lead to hours of fun
and erotica.
It won’t be
long before she and other guys start matching and “chatting” and it’s quite
important that whatever boundaries and rules you have established are clear on
both sides. More in Step 10.
Take it slow.
Make it a game. Use these results in
your sex and masturbation fantasies together. When this stage loses its titillation,
she’ll be ready to take another step like meeting one of the guys for a date. Engage
as her wing man however you have agreed, and insure you that she has confidence
that you are protecting her and supporting her.
As her
confidence builds and she is secure that these fantasies are strengthening your
love and sex life, she’ll be ready to take one of these dates home and suck his
cock while you watch surreptitiously. Soon
she’ll be wearing anklets, riding fat hot cocks, and exploring both of your
fantasies.
Step 10.
Arrival of Hotwife & Cuckold
Let’s assume you are successful up to
this point. IT WILL BE CHALLENGING, IT
WILL BE EMOTIONAL, and it WILL BUILD a STRONGER RELATIONSHIP. Communicate, Listen, and move at your own
pace. It is vitally important, that the
foundation and Step 1 are sincere, transparent, and loving.
It is all about
HER, and always keep that at the front of your mind. She is primary, you are not. Worship her! You are her loving wing-man, support, and
confidant. Enjoy your new roles.
Let her know you will participate only
to the extent to the extent the two of you have agreed. If she wants you to watch, great! If she wants you to be nearby for security at
first, do it, and do not insist you watch. If she wants you for clean-up after, do not
hesitate, not matter how you feel about that at first. You do what SHE wants,
not what you want.
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I bought some new wireless headphones to use with the computer. Mostly for gaming, my wife didn’t share my enthusiasm for games, so she’d asked that I wear the headphones at night to keep the sound from bothering her. Once I got them configured they worked great.
Almost immediately I noticed a side effect. When my transmitter was unplugged from my computer, it seems the headphones were sensitive enough that, if I was sitting just right, I could pick up sounds coming from other computers. I knew the neighbors to both sides of us had wi-fi networks and sometimes I could pick up their router signals.
This was the first time though I could pick up sounds. As if I were sitting right in front of their computers. Mostly it was boring stuff, television shows and movies with news broadcasts on occasion. Then one night I unplugged my transmitter and picked up what sounded like sex. Must have been one of the neighbors watching porn.
My dick got hard imagining what the neighbor might have been watching. "Oh yeah, you like that?“, a man asked. "Like when I fuck your tight pussy?”
A woman moaned in response, “Don’t stop. Yes. Fuck me.” There were sounds of panting, groaning, and moaning for many minutes constantly accompanied by the squeaking of a bed.
Shyly I looked about to ensure I was alone, my wife had already gone to bed. The bedroom door was shut. Feeling safely alone I decided to masturbate and whipped out my dick right there listening to the sounds of my neighbor’s porn. Didn’t take long for me to cum either, my imagination was really kicked in.
I took a few minutes to clean up and then sneaked into the bedroom and into bed next to my wife. The following night I couldn’t resist the temptation. After my wife went to be I tried to pick up a neighbor’s porn again using the headphones. Sure enough, right around the same time there were sounds of sex.
“Fuck yes, just like that”, a woman said. "Oooh, yes.“ More moans of pleasure, "Eat my pussy. Yes. Lick it.” The woman’s moans reach a climax.
“My turn”, a man’s voice said. Slurping noises, what sounded like a blowjob, quickly confirmed, “Yes, suck that cock.”
The continued for many more minutes while I jerked off. Then the woman’s voice, “Fuck me now. Stuff this hard dick in my pussy.” Noise of movement, a bed squeaking slowly, and then both people moaning. A few minutes later and the woman groaned, “I’m cumming! Oh fuck!”
That was enough for me and I came as well. Then I had to spend a few minutes cleaning up, hiding the evidence from my wife, and the sneaking into the bedroom without disturbing her like the night before. This became an almost nightly ritual for me. Each day I tried to guess which neighbor it was, but somehow not knowing was a turn on.
After a few weeks I was getting set up even earlier, letting my wife retire to the bedroom by herself while I went to listen in on my neighbors. That night started normally, sounds of oral sex and a bed squeaking. My headphones slipped as I jerked my dick vigorously. As I quickly readjusted them I heard something not from the headphones.
For a moment I turned them off, straining to hear with my own ears. Sure enough I could hear faint sounds of sex and a bed squeaking. Switching the headphones back on confirmed the sounds were the same, just a few seconds apart. I wasn’t listening to a neighbor watch porn, I was listening to them have sex and somehow their computer was broadcasting the sound.
That was more of a turn on than I could have imagined and I came immediately. As I cleaned up I realized that I was still aroused, so I went back to the computer to see if the neighbors were still going. Sure enough, the sounds of sex were present but quiet. There was whispering that I couldn’t make out.
The sex started up again, more vigorous and intense. I could hear bodies slapping against each other, the man and woman both moaning constantly. She had at least two orgasms that she announced. Finally I heard the man, “Oh yes. I’m going to cum. Where do you want it?”
“In my pussy”, she growled, “Fill my pussy.” Then both of them moaned loudly as they orgasmed together. I joined them spewing my second load for the night. Again I took a few minutes to clean up, then slipped off to bed.
The following night I set up early again, this time anticipating quite a show. At first it was quiet, but then there was faint whispering. Sounds of kissing started, followed by soft moans, then a man’s voice, “Does your husband suspect anything?”
‘What the fuck?’, I thought. 'Which one of my neighbors is this?’
A woman responded, “No, not at all. Now lay down.” The bed squeaked a bit then she said, “Mmm, look at this big cock.” His moans grew as I presumed a blowjob started.
“Look at this tight pussy”, the guy moaned but was quickly drowned out by her moans. They must have been in a sixty-nine. As I listened I tried to figure out which of my neighbors this was, were they having an affair, and was this what I’d been hearing all along.
My dick was rock hard. Not knowing exactly what was happening, only able to imagine, hearing these two people enjoying themselves, my neighbors, and now the potential they’re having an affair… it was all a huge turn on. Any question I had about whether these two people were having an affair or not was swept aside with what I heard next.
“Fuck me now”, her voice popped, “With that dick twice the size of my husband’s.” The bed squeaked then she let out a long, loud moan. "Oooh yes!“
"Bigger than your husband?”, the man asked.
“Fuck yes!”
“Better than him?”
“Shut up and fuck me!”, she begged. "Just fuck me! Like a whore!“ The sounds of their sex got louder and more vigorous. When she exploded in orgasm I could hear it not only through the headphones but faintly past them. That was enough for me and I gripped my cock tightly to squeeze out every drop of cum I had.
While cleaning up I kept the headphones on and listened to these two fuck hard and loud. Then I had to use the bathroom, and when I moved away from the computer the sound cut out. I could still hear the sounds of sex though, louder than normal. While I took a piss I pushed the headphones aside and tried to get a better fix on the sound location.
The sex sounds had died down a bit, but were still audible. I sneaked down the hall toward the bedroom where my wife was sleeping, curious to see if the noises were louder there, but the bedroom was quiet and dark. So I went back to the computer and the sex sounds resumed in the headphones.
I put them back on, listened to the couple fuck, my dick getting hard, and wondering who these people actually were. Carefully I peaked out the windows at the neighbors curious to see if I could see who it was. All windows were closed or dark.
"Yes! Yes!”, the woman’s voice peaked in orgasm. "Cum for me! Cum on me!“ That pulled my attention back. From the sounds I imagined the woman dropping to her back on the bed and the man kneeling above her.
"Oh yeah”, he groaned, “I’m going to cum watching you play with your pussy.” Grunts indicated the he was cumming.
The woman moaned softly, “Yes… I’m cumming… I’m cumming…” I could picture his spunk falling on her chest as she rubbed her well fucked clit. They were getting more kinky each night. Part of me wondered if they knew I could hear them, there had to be a computer near them, with the sound on.
My dick was still hard so I switched to some normal porn to watch while leaving the neighbors to whatever they were up to. Video started, a woman on her back getting pounded and I imagined it was the neighbor and cheating wife. I started cumming before I could even plug my transmitter in.
As my cum spewed from the end of my dick I heard over the headphones the neighbor man say, “You need to get home before your husband gets done on the computer.”
You loved your girlfriend Allison, been dating her for years and were planning on proposing soon. As you got closer to asking you talked with her, wanted to discuss the past and be clear there were no secrets between you.
She confessed that she’d done some wild things when she was younger, but was ready to settle down. You had to confess that your old college buddy had a boat. The two of you would pick up women, take them out on the boat, and take turns fucking them.
She didn’t seem upset when you told her, after all you’d introduced her to this friend a while back and she even commented how he seemed a bit unsavory at the time. Apparently he made passes at her, even though he knew you were dating.
About a week after you talk with Allison you got a call from your buddy. “I’m taking the boat out again”, she said, “Want to come with me? Got a hot redhead this time and she’s really eager to fuck.” Laughing you turned him down, trying to reassure him that you were committing to you girlfriend.
He laughed in response, “Okay, buddy, whatever you say. I’ll take some pictures and send them to you after.” You had to chuckle at how immature he still was, but he sounded serious. True to his word though, a few days later you got a link to photos from his boat.
The pictures were not only raunchy, but they were of Allison.
She’d apparently heard everything you told her about the boat, your friend, and what you used to do. That got her curious and she decided to take a boat trip herself to see what really went on.
At first the pictures were fairly tame, but things got heated quickly. You knew Allison had a wild side and was always horny. Though you were worried how far things would go, you had to keep looking.
Some super tiny bikini you didn’t even know she owned. This was the first you’d seen it… and you weren’t the only one seeing it. The look on her face shows how excited she is being the object of attention.
This one made you wonder, was there someone else on the boat, had your buddy brought someone else along? In the old days it was always just the two of you with whatever women you could convince to take a ride.
Was her pussy shaved? Had she shaved it intentionally knowing she’d be wearing this bikini, going out on the boat, posing for pictures? She’d never shaved it for you.
Your “friend” must have asked the same question, but here is Allison clearly showing off her shaved cunt and pink lips. Was the pose her idea?
Nope, it was definitely your friend’s idea. He’d always had a thing for a woman’s ass. Getting her to turn around and show hers off must have been his idea. The smile on her face though indicated your girlfriend was enjoying herself.
The look on her face in this picture though… you couldn’t put it together. Had she been asked something, was she reaching a point of discomfort, what was happening at that moment?
Seems it was a little bit of each. Her bikini bottoms were missing. And if your friend was like you remember, he’d keep the bikini as a souvenir. Surely your girlfriend wasn’t going to go as far as the old days though.
Another shot of her completely naked, this one a bit more modest. At least she was covering her pussy. Though her face suggested she might be playing with it instead of just covering it. Now you wished you’d gone for the boat ride, you could have known what was really happening.
There was no doubt from this picture, she was playing with herself. Rubbing her clit while enjoying being watched and photographed. You remember the women loving being outside, alone on the boat, all that freedom.
And then you saw this picture. That was your buddy with his hard cock up you girlfriend’s tight, pink cunt. What had they done?
Her legs were spread wide, feet in the air, and you could imagine them flailing back and forth as they fucked. She was even holding her legs open, spreading her pussy wide to accept your friend’s cock.
A closer in shot this time and you realized there must have been at least one other person on the boat. Here eyes were toward the distance, maybe a fourth person on the boat or another boat on the water. Your eyes were on the unprotected dick in your soon-to-be fiance’s twat.
Then a picture that abolished any doubts you had about whether Allison was enjoying herself on not. Her face clearly moaning out pleasure. Was she asked to turn toward the camera? How long had they been at it?
This photo had a message from your buddy. “Check out this slut. I fuck her silly for nearly twenty minutes and then she make me pull out. I was worried she didn’t want me to cum in her, but nope she just wanted to swallow it all down.”
You thought that would be the end of it, but no, there were more pictures. This section had another note from your friend. “Slut was so horny she sucked down all my see and then got me up for round two. This time I bent her over the side of the boat though.”
A picture from the front of the boat looking back. In the past you’d done this with your friend. One of you would stay aft with one woman while the other was fore on the boat with another. Occasionally you’d look at each other, sluts bent over the side of the boat, and smile at each other. Then you noticed the guy with the camera. There must have been three guys on the boat with Allison.
Final note from your friend:
My first mate really loved this shot. I managed to dump cum into her pussy this time, she couldn’t really pull away, but it didn’t matter because she was so hot for it that she pushed her cunt back onto me as deep as she could. Sorry we didn’t manage to get any more pictures after this. She took all three of us into the cabin for a wild day.
And it was a full day, we were out on the water until after dark. Thankfully my two new crew mates are young college studs, so they were able to keep up with her. For a while they double fucked her and she tried to suck me hard again, slut seemed to really want all three of us to fuck her as much as possible in every hole.
Shame you weren’t here, she was asking if I had any more guys I could bring along next time. So we’re going out again this weekend if you want to make it, otherwise I have two other guys joining us. We’ll see if the five of us can keep that pussy satisfied. Doesn’t she kind of look like your girlfriend? Anyway, if you want to come you’re invited and I promise not to tell her.
That was alright, you’d be having a conversation with Allison as soon as you saw her again. Unfortunately that wouldn’t be until after the weekend.